Friday, September 5, 2008

Brush off

I was given the brush off today. I'm disappointed. I attempted to be sensitive with the result that Captain W canceled Saturday plans altogether. I got the distinct impression that he was a little hesitant to have me over so I suggested we postpone Conan and do something else. He said he needed this weekend to "catch up and clean up" and suggested that we plan for next week instead. Curses. I wrote out a long-ass email about how I lead a very busy life as well and that I'm going to be swamped for the next couple of weeks and that, if he wants to see me again, he'll have to get over his phone-phobia and start calling me to show that he's interested.

But, when I was walking home from school at 3 am, I talked to two friends. Male, in Vancouver which is why they were still up. They said not to send the email. That I should be more elusive and unavailable. Let him do the chasing. Snort, Captain Wiggles has no game, by his own admission.

So yes, the email remains unsent. I hate playing games. It's excruciating. I was really starting to like this guy. The irony is that I used the same brush off on The Kid a couple of weeks ago. Dating karma is a bitch.


Asshat said...

Maybe he just doesn't want you to see his place when it's messy. I know what that's like as I live in a sea of dog hair, unless I'm having company.

Elusive Butterfly said...

But really Asshat, if you were so into a girl that you emailed her on Saturday wanting to see her on Tuesday, would you then wait more than a week to see her again? Something is fishy. Why would he cancel entirely? We could have done something else. Does it take you 10 days to clean up a sea of dog hair? Anyway, I am trying not to overthink this and just move on.

I don't mind dog hair. What kind of dog?

Asshat said...

I'll admit that I could clean up a lot of dog hair in 10 days and also that I have no idea what Wiggle's agenda might be. And I'm the last person who should give relationship advice. But you can spoil something, and drive youself nuts in the bargain, by trying too hard to force it to succeed. It's not worth it. You can't force Wiggle to be the perfect antidote to your disappointments with Grey. Just relax, suspend the skepticism and let Wiggle make up his mind to do something.

Oh, yeah. I have a golden retriever.

Elusive Butterfly said...

"the perfect antidote to your disappointments with Grey"

Asshat, where did this incisive perception come from? I'm impressed, and more than a little disappointed in myself for not seeing it until you pointed it out. Unfortunately, I'm too tired to think clearly about this right now so I'm going to bed.