Saturday, July 18, 2009

Waxing philosophical/thesis procrastination

What if getting married and having kids and grandkids is the only really meaningful thing we can do in life and I'm missing out on all of that because I'm too scared and/or selfish?

What if I didn't learn that because my parents didn't understand it and couldn't pass it on?

I don't want to have children. I'm too selfish. I like shoes and silence and space.

I need a drink.

8 comments:

G in Berlin said...

Well, you still have time. Although I actually do think that, I also think if you don't feel that way you have the right. And I didn't find the right guy at the right time until I was 38, with my first child at 39, so you certainly have time to change your mind or to become more sure in your decision.

geekhiker said...

Wait, a girl who likes to have sex for reasons other than procreation?

Now I think I need a drink.

Asshat said...

I haven't noticed that marriage and children have all that much that would recommend them. So have a drink for me. Bottoms up.

SaneAndSingle said...

Amen! You aren't the only one!

Awkward, for you said...

I don't want to get married or have kids...I know i'm too selfish for kids. I just don't want the investment. Plus almost every child hates their parents during their teen years...i don't want to be hated.

Ms Behaviour said...

Wow, I didn't think this somewhat random blog entry would generate so many comments! Thanks for reading guys :)

SaneAndSingle said...

I came back! I had a convo with someone that made think of this entry. We decided that many women feel this way but are too afraid to admit it. Often, as women, we are expected to desire marriage and a family. Many people think something is wrong with us if we don't. I look at my married friends who have kids. Most of them are as unhappy, if not more so, as I am. Some of them have admitted that they got married and had babies because they thought that was what they were supposed to do next in life.

Ms Behaviour said...

Well, I'm glad to hear that I'm not going crazy, although not glad to hear that your married/mommy friends are not happy. Maybe the reason we're supposed to get married and have babies is because it's not actually possible to be happy so it's better to be unhappy and not alone? I don't know. I always find it's easier for me to be grumpy and miserable when I'm on on my own.